#7 of the Top 10 Worst Relationship Mistakes: You've overlooked the pandemic's psychological scars

I’m certainly not one to encourage peering into life’s revision mirror for too long, however it is worth giving yourself some recognition for making it through the recent years we have endured. Now that you’ve patted yourself on the back, let’s take a look at yourself and check you’re not making the 7th top relationship mistake I notice in the couple’s therapy room.

It’s not very often when we can reflect back on an event in world history that has affected everyone on the planet in some way. I am sure most of us have not arrived to 2023 without being unscathed in some manner by (a word we are all tired of hearing), the pandemic.

Have you overlooked any lingering effect on your mental health and how you now show up in your relationship?

You are encouraged to circle back to self-reflect using the prompts at No #5 of this blog series. In the meantime,  why not just take a moment to consider all those important aspects of you that your partner was first attracted to? Do you still offer those same characteristics now? 

What self-nurture is required to help get back to the best version of you?
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You could even evaluate the quality of your connection by asking yourself these thoughtful questions often used in PACT Therapy designed to encourage emotional safety in your relationship:

• What are a few things which make my partner vulnerable?

• What are helpful things I can say or do to help soothe my partner’s vulnerabilities?

• What are a few things that make my partner feel loved and good about themself?

• What does my partner need for me to do, or to hear from me that no one else would ever say or do?

Enjoy gifting your partner with these thoughtful actions or words as a result. They might even reciprocate!

 

Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more on her online courses at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com