What does a leap year have to do with Intimacy?

I love the meaning of a leap year day on the weekend which perfectly blends with my current relationship series, “Intimacy Inhibitors”. Head to my blog for this series where so far I’ve covered:

• What frequency is your antennae tuned to? 

• Apathy

• Fear of Rejection

• 9 Mind Management Steps to overcoming Fear

 
A Leap Year Day, gives the earth additional time to complete the full circle around the sun. If we didn’t add leap days, each calendar year would be increasingly out of alignment and begin about six hours before the earth does its entire journey. Our time would slowly drift apart from the tropical year and we would get out of sync with the seasons. Americans would be eating Thanksgiving turkey in summer!
 
What does that have to do with intimacy?
 
Alignment.
 
When we’re not regularly  checking in with our partner, aligning with your each other’s needs, challenges, hectic schedules, children’s discipline and forward planning – we’re increasingly out of sync.
 
Examples of when this intimacy inhibitor features in my counselling room is when:

• Partners aren’t growing at the same pace in critical areas of their life that adjust their perspective of the relationship.

• A frantic pace where little time is set aside for face to face communication.

• Poor communication skills

• External family influences around differing values and opinions

 
I realise you can’t anticipate every step of life together, however it is worth having a decent crack to avoid constantly falling into the potholes of misalignment.
 
Why does your mechanic check the wheel alignment? It avoids unnecessary wear on your tyres, steering, suspension and brakes. The key word here is “unnecessary” - why would we  drift apart unnecessarily without harmonizing each other’s sexual flavours, spirituality, personal development, goals and dreams?

A great reminder today is to leap on in and arrange that alignment catch-up with your partner  for a forecast of sunny days ahead!
 
Joanne Wilson is a neuropsychotherapist, relationship specialist, workshop facilitator and guest speaker. Tune into radio Salt106.5 each Friday morning for her co-host of the Morning Wakeup. Don’t miss more on these articles in her “Is This Love” Podcast and download your FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com